by drjessicahouston@gmail.com drjessicahouston@gmail.com | Apr 30, 2014 | Self Improvement
We have officially reached mid-week and I am excited to share how you can develop and maintain a winning mindset. I believe that we are designed to win and therefore we should always expect victory in every aspect of our lives. Although there are times when we feel like the odds are against us, we must understand that goals are designed to stretch us. For this reason, I want to encourage you to stay in the game, even when it seems as though the odds are stacked against you. I say this because there is a blueprint to winning and you are capable of overcoming some of the most common obstacles to winning. To name a few, some of the obstacles to winning include: fear, self-doubt, lack of planning, lack of discipline, and lack of support. Are you allowing one of the aforementioned obstacles to hold you back?
Winning requires strategy and determination. Most people fail to reach their goals because their strategy is ineffective. Others fail to reach their goals, because they simply are not determined enough. When you have a strong desire to win, you do not allow a set back to convert to a permanent failure. Please understand that there is a difference between a temporary defeat and a permanent failure. Those who win do not give up if a goal is not met, they simply revise their strategy. Winners understand that there is always room for growth and development. Therefore, even those who seem to be at the top of their game have advisors and coaches. Finally, winning requires that you strive for excellence. Once you develop a winning mindset, you will no longer settle for mediocrity. This week, I challenge you to set a goal that stretches you. What would you like to accomplish over the next 7 days. Your goal should be specific and measurable. Write it down and seek out an accountability partner, coach, or mentor. Finally, be sure to have a clear mission and an appropriate strategy. After developing a winning mindset, you will become unstoppable. Until next week……
Dr. Jessica Houston
http://expectingvictory.com
by drjessicahouston@gmail.com drjessicahouston@gmail.com | Apr 20, 2014 | Self Improvement
There is much to be said about an individual who truly believes that anything is possible. I know that it might sound far- fetched, but if you do not believe in yourself, how can you expect for someone else to believe in you? I believe that we depend on the opinions and expectations of others far too often . When it comes to your vision, do their opinions really matter? Instead of asking everyone what they think, try doing some self-reflection. You have the answers. In fact, I am confident that you are much more creative than you even realize. Are you making your decisions based on your desires? If you are not careful, you will end up making decisions based on what you believe will make everyone else happy. Do not focus on trying to blend in with the crowd. I have found that it is okay to be different. Trust you own intuition. It feels good to be true to yourself. It also feels good to believe in yourself. One of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself is self-trust. Take a moment to think about how much closer you would be to your goal if you had believed in your abilities sooner. You are worthy of greatness. You do deserve the best. Give yourself permission to take your life to the next level. Whatever you do, do not dim your light for the sake of fitting in. Are you willing to trust yourself? Remember the most important opinion is yours. You can either build yourself up or tear yourself down. The choice is yours. Until next time….
Dr. Jessica Houston
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by drjessicahouston@gmail.com drjessicahouston@gmail.com | Apr 6, 2014 | Self Improvement
Everyone has gifts, talents, skills, and unlimited potential. However, everyone is not willing to take full advantage of their potential. In fact, most people allow fear to prevent them from maximizing their potential. Typically, our current circumstances cause us to set small goals that are easily attainable. We do this because it makes us comfortable and because we do not need faith, hard work, or outside assistance to reach mediocre goals. Unfortunately, when we do this, we are not stretching ourselves and we are not maximizing our potential. Think about it, when you are attempting to build muscle, you cannot continue to lift the same amount of weight. If you keep lifting the same amount of weight, your strength will not increase.
Are you maximizing your potential? When you maximize your potential, you understand that the process will be uncomfortable. However, you also understand that stretching yourself, will allow you to go further than you could ever imagine. When you maximize your potential, you set goals that you cannot reach without the help of someone else. It takes courage to maximize your potential, because dreaming big places you in a vulnerable position. No one wants to fail and this is the reason why most people set goals that are easily attainable. Are you willing to be different? Are you willing to become the person whom you were designed to become? Do not wait for perfect timing. It is time to begin maximizing your potential now. Until next week….
Dr. Jessica Houston
by Marquisia Taylor marqtaylor11 | Mar 26, 2014 | Feminism, Self Improvement, Uncategorized
Have you ever felt as though something was missing? Like if you find or achieve one more thing or two, you would feel complete? Author, Diane Mariechild, suggests that a woman already has all she needs.
What if you do not know how to tap into that power? Tiny Buddha offers 6 Questions That Will Make You Feel Peaceful and Complete:
1. What if there was nothing I needed to fix in me? What if there was nothing I needed to change? What if I was perfect just the way I am now?
2. What if I didn’t have to punish myself to get the lesson?
3. What if I didn’t have to apologize?
4. What if what I need is already here?
5. What if I didn’t have to figure it all out?
6. What if exactly what I need is happening already?
Wow! Great perspective, right? It really makes us put what is important first … ourselves. We have the power to create, nurture and transform all within ourselves. We are already complete. #expectvictory
by Marquisia Taylor marqtaylor11 | Mar 19, 2014 | Self Improvement, Uncategorized
Hello! I’m back again with another Winning on Wednesday post. We are pretty busy at expectingvictory.com and because of that we are little behind schedule. Our apologies, but there are great goodies to come from it and I’m here to get you all caught up.
I’m sure you all are #expectingvictory just as much as I am. In the mist of expectation we are typically anticipating. While anticipation may run high, it is important to not allow fear to control our thoughts and our actions.
As Dr. Houston wrote last week, “The Power of Pushing Through Your Fears” is important because if we remain comfortable we do not grow. We do not want to be stagnant or stifled. We want to strive for success and reach heights that we never thought could be made possible.
Here’s a few tips on how self can win in the battle against fear:
1) Assess what makes you feel comfortable and what doesn’t.
Beginning with the identification of what we are uncomfortable with allows us to see which route we need to take to break out of our comfort zone in order to grow. What do you want to achieve? What steps need to be taken?
2) Practice positive self affirmation.
Fear often causes us to doubt ourselves and lower our own expectations of what we are truly capable of doing. Learn to celebrate each thing that you have done successfully. Celebrate each step that you have taken outside of your comfort zone. There’s no need to overlook these things. Each action is considered progress for the better. Treat it as such. Note to yourself that you have done a good job, you’re becoming better, stronger and more confident. The more you speak it, you’ll believe it and realize how true it is. This is a major part of overcoming fear because you actually have begun the process of changing your mindset. Once your mind has conquered doubt and fear, there’s nothing stopping you.
3) Reflect on your growth.
Take a moment to realize how far you come whether it is by the day, by the week, by the month and even the year. Take note of the things you have done in order to achieve your goals over time. You will begin to notice how things have to changed simply because you are no longer comfortable.
Once we follow the three steps in this post, we will begin to see how we perceive ourselves and how we can improve that perception to overcome our battles.
BONUS: Write all of these things in a journal. Writing all your changes, big and small, will allow you to keep an actual tangible record of how you have become strong, better and more confident.
In “Women’s Secrets”, Dr. Houston talks about how self can beat fear. Chapter 1 is titled, How I Came to See Myself. She talks about how self-perceptions significantly impacts the many areas of our lives. To learn how Dr. Houston learned to see herself to become better read “Women’s Secrets”.
Be sure to check back for additional ways to Win on Wednesday!
by drjessicahouston@gmail.com drjessicahouston@gmail.com | Mar 16, 2014 | Self Improvement
I truly believe that it is important move to out of your comfort zone often. However, I have not always felt this way. In fact, for many years I ran away from challenges and denied that I needed to make changes in certain areas of my life. I denied that I needed to make changes, because it gave me an excuse to remain in my comfort zone. What I have found is that my greatest accomplishments happened only after I took a leap of faith. Was it difficult for me to push beyond my fears and write a book that shared my deepest secrets? Yes. Was I nervous and scared? Yes. However, if I had succumbed to my fears, I would not be able to help other women identify and address some of the pain and struggles that have been holding their happiness hostage.
Sometimes we fear failure. Many times I would be in situations where I remained in my comfort zone, because I imagined an ending that was awful. I thought that I could not accomplish what I had set out to accomplish. Fortunately, I was wrong. Pushing through your fears will show you that your belief about what you can accomplish is distorted. Pushing through your fears will undoubtedly make you a better person. Instead of imagining that you will fail, imagine that you cannot fail. Stop waiting for the easy button and move out of your comfort zone. This week I challenge you to push through your greatest fear. When your goal is reached, you will be glad that you stepped up and pushed through your fears. Until next week…..
Dr. Jessica Houston
http://expectingvictory.com
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