Does the title “Are You Too Strong” startle you? After all, being strong is a good thing, right? Well, yes being strong is good. Being strong is good, because it takes strength to get through a hectic day, problem solve and not have a total meltdown when things do not go as planned. However, the issue is being too strong. When you are too strong, you deprive yourself of the support that you deserve. It is dangerous when we attempt to see ourselves as invincible and all knowing. When this happens, there is no room to make a mistake, feel disappointed, not know what to do, etc. With so much pressure on you, there is no way that you can release your pain, disappointment and/or grief. There is also a good chance that you will miss out on an opportunity for someone else to help you get to where you desire to be easier and quicker.
I am going to be extremely transparent with you right now. I am laying my dad to rest this week and I deserve the support of family and friends. As a helper and a giver, I have to be very intentional about taking a break when I need it and asking for help, even though I can grind harder and get it done by myself. My question for you today is, who are you leaning on? It is okay if you find joy in pouring into others. However, you have to be willing to slow down and take care of yourself. Be clear about who the key players are in your support system. Do you have someone that you can lean on when you feel as though you are running on empty? Do you have someone who is always in your corner, cheering you on? Nothing compares to having a coach or mentor who can see in you what you don’t see? If you do not already have a coach or mentor, I want you to know that you deserve to have at least one in your life. I personally have several coaches and mentors.
If you want to be a better leader, parent, friend, spouse, etc., you must be courageous enough to seek support. Being superwoman or superman is not the answer. The only way to move forward is to confront the elephant in the room. This might mean crying, praying, meditating or just feeling the emotions that accompany what you are experiencing. Welcoming support is one of the best gifts that you can give yourself. You do want to be strong, but you don’t want to be so strong that you don’t give yourself permission to be human. Today, I challenge you to assess how often you ask for help and/or support. Please take some time to take care of you! Until next time….
To read more about how you can begin living the life that you deserve, visit http://www.amazon.com/Dr.-Jessica-Houston/e/B00ITU9ZEA and pick up a copy of Women’s Secrets: It’s Time to Stop Suffering in Silence.
God Bless,
Dr. Jessica Houston, LMSW
Expectingvictory.com
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