I was having a conversation with my sister the other day about how you can sometimes love someone so much that you avoid facing the truth. Have you ever loved, respected and trusted someone who turned out to be the exact opposite of whom you initially thought they were? Well, I have been there many times and I will tell you that it hurts. It hurts when the person you thought that you would spend the rest of your life with cheats on you. It hurts when someone you thought was a friend, lies on you, spreads rumors about you or shares something that they promised not to share. We can pretend that we do not see the red flags. We can even try to rationalize their behavior. However, at some point, we must face the truth. In fact, in time, the truth often reveals itself. Why is it that we are afraid to face the truth? I believe that we sometimes elect to avoid the truth, because the truth will hurt. The truth could take us out of daydreaming mode and catapult us into reality. It is our human nature to avoid pain. For this reason, we are likely to do all that we can to avoid feeling pain. Unfortunately, this tendency to avoid feeling pain can cause us to stay in relationships or circumstances that we know are not good for us. Is there a truth that you have been avoiding? Facing the truth might cause a temporary loss. However, walking in truth, will yield a return that is much greater than what you have lost. Until next time…….
Dr. Jessica Houston, LMSW
Expectingvictory.com
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