If asked, most people will report that they love themselves. However, the truth is that loving yourself goes far beyond stating that you love yourself. When you truly love yourself, you have specific and intentional qualities. In fact, when you truly love yourself, you understand that you are worthy of the best and you refuse to settle for mediocre living. Instead of asking you if you love yourself, I have an even better question for you “How do you show that you love yourself?” Self love means that you can look in the mirror and honestly believe that you are beautiful, talented and capable of accomplishing whatever you desire to accomplish. Below I have listed five qualities that individuals who love themselves exude. Once you are aligned with the qualities described below, you will have what it takes to master the art of self love.
1. Self Acceptance: Individuals who love themselves accept who they are. They have accepted those qualities that they cannot change. However, they are also committed to working on the qualities that can be changed.
2. Forgiving Quickly: Individuals who love themselves understand that withholding forgiveness is a major roadblock to happiness. Self love means forgiving, even when you do not want to forgive.
3. Disconnect from Unhealthy Relationships: Individuals who love themselves understand that they cannot remain in an unhealthy relationship. Self love means severing ties with people who are consistently causing you pain and distress.
4. Better Decision Making: When you love yourself you make decisions that are aligned with where you would like to be in the future. Self love means discontinuing negative habits and no longer engaging in risky behaviors. This is directly related to the question of “How do you show that you love yourself?”
5. Recognize and Counteract Negative Thoughts: Everyone is susceptible to negative emotional thinking. However, when you love yourself, you realize that negative thinking will sabotage your dreams and your overall wellbeing. Loving yourself means, that you are dedicated to stopping negative thoughts quickly and replacing them with positive thoughts.
If you are not aligned with the above qualities, it is not too late. You can transform your life by mastering the art of self love. This week I challenge you to begin showing how much you love yourself on a daily basis. If you are ready to transform your life, I highly recommend that you order the ultimate self-help book “Women’s Secrets” which can be found at www.amazon.com. Until next week…..
Dr. Jessica Houston
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